Father
I think the thing about the patriarchy is the grooming. So you have a group maintaining the power through asserting a system that is not the best. The best is to always believe and support the future as the parent does for the child, a system of love that needs to oppressed by decades of grooming, dividing the young into have and nots, those with a future and those without. And both need to be groomed, the master and the servant.
Punishment
